Fear can seem insurmountable at times. It can feel like it is almost impossible to beat it. It can seem just so big, strong and fixed...It can feel hard to know where to start.... Can you relate to that?
Howard Cooper, one of the many amazing speakers that has worked on our fear of flying programme over the years, described it like a rope. We always thought that this was a very descriptive and helpful way to describe how fear gets a hold.
A rope is strong. If you try to break a rope, it is not that easy. No-one is really that strong.
However, when you actually look at a rope, it is made up of lots of mini ropes. If you were to take the mini ropes apart, thread by thread, you would eventually be able to break the rope.
Fear is a bit like that. It feels so strong, it is hard to know where to start. The trick is to start. Start by picking at the fear one strand at a time.
Compare these two approaches:
- Approach 1
Accept the fact that you have a fear of flying. Give yourself permission to take your time to beat the fear. Do lots of tiny things every week towards beating the fear because you know that, little by little, you will eventually break the fear. Do not watch those programmes about air crashes or incidents as you know that these are the same as making the rope thicker and stronger.
Perhaps you can see what you do? Please consider approach 2 when dealing with your fears....beating a fear is a process that takes a different amount of time for each person.
Paul & Richard
Virgin Atlantic's Flying Without Fear Programme